There is a conversation going on right now in the IT world. It is a very, very important conversation, a conversation that is long overdue and NEEDS to be had. The problem is that one half of this conversation is living in fear of the other. One half of this conversation is being bullied, abused, and attacked for simply trying to exist.
It’s become an us vs. them scenario, split straight down the gender line, and we are severely outnumbered. There have been a few deflectors from the other side who have stood up, and publicly defended us against their own kind, but these few, brave souls are not enough. I’ve talked to countless members from the other side who tell me they fully agree and support the cause, yet they remain silent…choosing instead to allow the abuse and degradation to continue because “it wasn’t my fight, it wasn’t my life, it wasn’t my rights, it wasn’t my place” and “no one from your side was present when things were said, no one from your side intervened, no one from your side brought it up.”
When our side is standing in a room, outnumbered twenty to one, your one small voice, your five seconds of bravery, your willingness to take a stand because YOU believe in us, can make all the difference in the world. It can turn the meekest wallflower into an outspoken soapboxer. Just knowing that we are not alone, that we are not the only ones willing to stand up for what’s right, that you’ll have our backs when the vultures attack, would mean the world.
But it’s been my realization as of late, that aside from a few big name celebrities, no one from their side is willing to say a word. No one is willing to lend a hand. No one is willing to look at someone of their own variety and say, “No, she has value here, too.” Instead, they hide in the shadows watching every move of the game, but just as afraid of playing as we are, albeit for completely different reasons.
And the silence is deafening.